Bad Blood

You know the feeling.  You get home from a LOOONG day of work and all you want is to put on comfy clothes and lounge on the couch with a cup of matcha tea and a good book (no? Just me?) for the evening. So you change, get comfy, and then realize, you had dinner plans with a friend that night. Do you call and cancel and enjoy a moment of relaxation or trudge back up the stairs and make yourself presentable to the general public once again? According to some research and more personal experience than I care to disclose, the idea of ditching friends, family, colleagues, etc. at the last minute, just because in the age of technology when you feel you CAN, is inexcusable.

As exhausted as you may be after a full day of work or errands, if you commit to something, whether it is dinner with girlfriends or a PTO fundraiser, you should follow through. From what I have read and experienced first hand, even if I whine and complain beforehand about how tired I am or how boring the outing might be, I have NEVER regretted going after the fact. Whether it reconnects me to a friend I don’t see often, or allows me to contribute to a cause that I feel connected to, it is important to honor the plans you have agreed upon with others. When we cancel, especially at the last minute, or worse yet, just pull a no-show, it can hurt others, place additional work on people, and it is just plain inconsiderate.

The sad thing is, it seems as I get older, or maybe it’s the time we live in, the idea of ‘Last Minute Itis’, as Psychology Today refers to it, is getting worse.  Some blame it on the fact that we are always reachable, and that being able to text someone and not leave them hanging makes the person canceling feel less guilty, but guilt trip or not, I don’t think we can fully blame this on technology, but rather the lack of social skills so many of us choose not to exercise any longer. I’m not sure what it is, and if you are like me, with young kids and a full time job, I can relate, it IS tiring to do anything else besides survive at this point in my life. But I still go out with my girlfriends. They were important to me before I had a husband and family, and they should not cease to exist because life is currently a juggling act. Going out with a friend is cathartic, whether we are commiserating, relaying humorous moments, reliving our glory days. Some days, this is EXACTLY what helps me get through my day. So, even if your pajamas are calling and it’s easier to just send a text and flop on the couch, RESIST! Go out with your friends, and honor your volunteer commitments. They make you who you are, and you won’t regret that!